It’s funny how the desire to stick by one’s own decisions is seen as being stubborn. There’s this rule I really like following: You’re the only one responsible for your actions. But that rule creates several problems:
- I’m not easy to convince.
- Guilt generated within me if I continuously keep saying no.
- Frustration/hurt/anger generated in others because I continuously keep saying no.
It’s just that if I think I’m not supposed to do something, I don’t want to cave in to others’ persuasions, because more often than not I’m going to regret doing that, and then I’m going to blame the other person. I never want to say “You made me do it” or “This is all your fault”.
I guess it stems from the Golden Rule that says Do Unto You As Others Would Have Them Do Unto You.
There’s a fine line between “I did it for you” and “I did it because of you” and I’m the kind of person who’d really loathe being on the receiving end of the latter. Hence, I’d feel really guilty putting someone else on the receiving end of that as well. If the persuasion makes me do something that I don’t regret, they’d receive the happiness of knowing they’re special and can make me do stuff for them, but like I said, more often than not – that does not happen, so why take the risk?
Today, I was finally able to explain this reasoning to a friend. He seemed to understand and agreed to not force me from now on. So that’s it, a suppose. I short justification of why I never want to listen to others. 😛